Social Anxiety sufferers/specialists only please?
I was diagnosed about 5 years ago and have come a long way.
However, after losing a close friend to broken trust, I’ve had problems making friends since…
The hardest thing is being cut off in conversation. I know it happens and people don’t mean anything wrong by it, but when I’ve already got a disorder that makes it hard to openly speak and form comfortable converstaion, being cut off makes me feel like it’s not even worth trying…
Just wondering if anyone can empasize. (couldn’t spell that one lol)
Tips or support are appreciated. Thank you.
How long ago was it you lost your friendship through broken trust?
Being cut off while talking is upsetting for anyone, but especially
for you. If it is a family member or someone who is close enough
to know some of what you have been through the last 5 years,
I think you should interrupt them and tell them how that makes you
feel when they do that. By talking about it, you will help yourself,
and you will put some manners in the people who are doing it.
Good luck to you. I hope you get back to where you were since
you came along so well. If I may give you a tip, remember people
are full of flaws. They will let you down. You are your own best
friend. Be true to yourself, love youself, be kind to yourself, and
it won’t hurt so bad, in time, when others do this to you.
October 7th, 2009 at 12:34 am
i know how it is. I feel for you im sorry you feel this way too. Love love <3
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October 7th, 2009 at 12:40 am
How long ago was it you lost your friendship through broken trust?
Being cut off while talking is upsetting for anyone, but especially
for you. If it is a family member or someone who is close enough
to know some of what you have been through the last 5 years,
I think you should interrupt them and tell them how that makes you
feel when they do that. By talking about it, you will help yourself,
and you will put some manners in the people who are doing it.
Good luck to you. I hope you get back to where you were since
you came along so well. If I may give you a tip, remember people
are full of flaws. They will let you down. You are your own best
friend. Be true to yourself, love youself, be kind to yourself, and
it won’t hurt so bad, in time, when others do this to you.
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I put a link about information concerning social anxiety. You may
already know this since you have had extensive therapy.
http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9C0CE3D81338F93BA25751C1A962948260&sec=health&spon=&pagewanted=all
October 7th, 2009 at 12:49 am
I totally have the same problem. I haven’t gotten help for it yet because I cannot afford to see a Dr about it yet.
It is so hard to seem "normal" in social situations. "Normal" people never have enough respect for the amount of effort it takes to socialize for people like us. My husband always wants to go to parties and stuff, and I really hate it. I don’t chit-chat well. People mistake me for snobby, but I am just introverted. Thankfully, he keeps up the conversation well enough that I don’t have to force it too much. (I explained social anxiety to him)
I do think that a psychiatrist can prescribe something to help, if you are okay with the idea of medication. It sure would be nice to be "normal" and more outgoing, wouldn’t it?
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I am searching for a psychiatrist right now, for this very thing, actually.
October 7th, 2009 at 1:10 am
That used to happen to me a lot when I was younger and had much lower self-esteem. People sense when you are not confident in what you are saying and they start talking over you? Yeah, been there! You may have to learn to speak a little louder or practice conversing at home with a good friend or family member. They should be willing to help you to gain more confidence when you’re speaking. Bye the way, I STILL can’t talk in front of a group of people! I fear that more then death! lol I "empathize!"
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October 7th, 2009 at 1:48 am
im the same way but my anxiety is so bad, when im at school its hard to breathe!! i always get really shaky over everything and i cant control when i cry, and i just explode! this happens all the time…
i really and truely have no idea on how to help this for u and me, but if u get anys ort of ideas for help will u please message me or something? becuase i truely need help…
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October 7th, 2009 at 2:35 am
You know what helped me? Learning about assertiveness. Read about this and then make an effort to try new behavior. Soon no one will dare cross you.
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October 7th, 2009 at 3:07 am
I definitely feel your pain. I’ve been seeing a psychologist for a couple of months and it is really helping so far. It’s still new for me but definitely worth it because otherwise, I know that the rest of my life will be miserable. Like you, I get a sick feeling when I’m going anywhere that requires socializing or even just being around a lot of people. I also have a hard time with conversations and really don’t even make the effort. Now I am trying to improve that.
I hope everything works out for you.
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