Please help! Social Anxiety disorder…Any advice?
I really can’t deal with it anymore. It’s gotten to the point where I feel like I can’t do anything, and I’m on the verge of giving up. I’m TERRIFIED of making mistakes, and if I feel that’s what I’ll do I won’t even try. I can’t even seem to do my homework anymore…or I’ll do it, but I wont hand it in for fear of getting criticized. I can’t get a job, for fear of screwing up or being unable to do it. I don’t answer the phone if I don’t know who it is, and even when I know who it is I still fear talking over the phone. When I’m talking on the phone, I can’t talk on it in front of other people…not even my parents. I’m afraid of leaving my house, and when forced to leave to get to school, I have a panic attack the whole time. I’m too afraid to learn how to drive, and when it comes time to move out…I don’t know what I’m going to do. To make things worse, I have nobody to offer support at home. My mom told me to "get over it", but I fear that’s easier said than done.*more details soon
I’m completely at a loss of what to do. My doctor wanted to put me on medication to try and help and my mom said yes to him, but when we got home she hid the medication, and refused to seek any other type of help. She says it’s stupid. Can I get any advice? I really need it…even though this might all sound stupid to you as well. =( Thank-you for your time.
-Jessie
First of all, you are not living only breathing!!! Secondly,
your mom is worse off than you by hiding the medication!!
Thirdly, I don’t think you can cure yourself alone, because you
don’t seem to have any will power to investigate your mind as
to what makes you think this way!!! Anxiety attacks come in various forms and is more than just mental , they affect your
entire system functions!! If you don’t work with this soon, you will end up physically as well as mentally sick and shut completely away from the world!!! Show this to your mom and
let her know that it rests mainly on her head because she
won’t cooperate!! GET SOME PROFESSIONAL HELP NOW!!!
October 8th, 2009 at 10:35 pm
you need to tell some one that your mom wont let you take the medicine. thats really serious. you need the help. but it could be worse i have most of those symptoms but very mild but no meds work for me
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October 8th, 2009 at 10:46 pm
Become a Christian if your not because truly God heals all of your problems. I was sick in hospital all the doctors new and though i was going to DIE! Everyone prayed and i was healed. Just give your life if you haven’t already to Jesus! Ask him for help and give him your problems PRAY
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October 8th, 2009 at 11:22 pm
Sounds like you need some proffesional help. I just think of all the people that are way way worst off then myself. Ask anyone parents, siblings, yahoo answers about their problems. You’ll then see your actually in pretty good shape and that making a mistake is nothing compared to what some people have done. No matter how hard you try and mess your life up even if its on purpose, its always good to know someone else has it worse.
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Experience
October 8th, 2009 at 11:52 pm
you need professional help, and pronto!
Don’t be ashamed, if you’re still in school go to the guidance councelor to get you on the right path, and names of prof. people to help u. You need to make your parents understand that you need help to "get over" this, and it is NOT a phase you’re going thru! Good Luck!
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October 9th, 2009 at 12:00 am
ok sweet you need to talk to someone who can help you, get one of your friends who you can talk to and trust to take you to a counsellor, i know thats a scary word in itself but they are just people and they are there to help, you are not going to just get over it as your mom suggests, i know because i have a 5 yr old with the same thing, i encourage him to go out and experience new things, he makes a lot of noise about it but usually enjoys whats out there, we are working with a team of specialists and are really getting somewhere. I really think this is the way forward for you, good luck, remember to keep it real, this is something you can make work for yourself, it may never go away but you can learn to keep a check on it, stay lucky.
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October 9th, 2009 at 12:50 am
theres three thing you can do to help you get over the anxiety disorder put you have to be willing to do it it will work. put it just depends on how much you really want to succed. Here they are
number 1
focus in the moment when you talking to someone ask questions youre intrested in but have a caring that instead of thinking what they will critize you have a beleife that you dont care what they think your there and you will succed. making them notice that you are somebody diffrent and your not like everybody else.
number2
go up and talk to a stranger tell them that your a really shy person and you just wanted to say hi to get used to talking to people and see were the conversation may lead. everytime you see someone just go up and talk it will bring your guard down on thinking and end up talking to mostly everyone in a room.
numbrer3
the moment you see or want to do something as turning in a homework or talking with your parents just walk up and do it at that exact moment it will take about three second for you to come up with an excuse. so what you have to do is the moment you see or what to do something do it in that second that way you will get it over and if you want to chage your mind your already in the moment when says no its to late your already there and you cant change it.
do it for a 5 weeks straight I promise you it will change your life dramatically. do things as perfectly as you can but without thinking about the outcome atleast not for now, until your able to look at a situation and now what the outcome will be you will know you have passed the test and succeded in clearing your anxiety..
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October 9th, 2009 at 1:36 am
The first time i had to deal with social anxiety disorder was wen i was 15 years old.But back then they just called it being shy.I had a terrible time trying to deal with it,and finally at the age of 35 i found a shrink that could help me.And he helped me with medications.it too about 6 months for the right medications to start working,but ill tell ya its like a dream come true,no raceing thoughts,and no deppression,,and the other symtoms you had stated you deal with too i also delt with…its like a breath of freash air..some of the drugs i take:PAXIL;RISPERDOL;CELEXA;WELLBRUTRUTION and a few others…may seem like a lot but there fantastic,,,im actually normal…my email..billythekid70103@sbcglobal.net
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October 9th, 2009 at 2:17 am
First of all, you are not living only breathing!!! Secondly,
your mom is worse off than you by hiding the medication!!
Thirdly, I don’t think you can cure yourself alone, because you
don’t seem to have any will power to investigate your mind as
to what makes you think this way!!! Anxiety attacks come in various forms and is more than just mental , they affect your
entire system functions!! If you don’t work with this soon, you will end up physically as well as mentally sick and shut completely away from the world!!! Show this to your mom and
let her know that it rests mainly on her head because she
won’t cooperate!! GET SOME PROFESSIONAL HELP NOW!!!
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October 9th, 2009 at 2:24 am
You need to tell them that your mom hid your meds…. I suffer from social anxiety as well….. and it is awful!!! I was put on zoloft and this seems to work for me…. Please talk to someone at school….or explain to your mother how this is ruining your life….
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