How can I overcome my social anxiety so I can get a job?
I really do want a job becuase I am sick of my mom having to buy me things but I have really bad social anxiety. How did you overcome extreme shyness? I have been prescribed anti-depressents but they don’t work.
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October 8th, 2009 at 10:26 pm
Just go out there and get em.. it doesnt matter if you are quiet its just a job your going to be at temporarily until you decide to quit or find another job. Who cares what people think about you!!!! its your life no theirs so worry about yourself and no one else, all that really matters in life anyways is your family
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October 8th, 2009 at 10:32 pm
People who tell you to just "go do it" don’t understand the problems of social anxiety. It’s more than just shyness.
I’m curious as to why you were prescribed anti-depressants for anxiety. You need medications for anxiety specifically. I’d go back to whatever doctor prescribed you those and tell them that you aren’t depressed, you’re suffering from extreme social anxiety, and you’d prefer if they treated the problem you actually have. They should prescribe you some kind of medication you can take when needed, such as before a situation where you think anxiety will occur, or when you’re already suffering from extreme anxiety.
Good luck.
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October 8th, 2009 at 10:55 pm
A therapist or councelor could really help you learn to deal with these situations. I also agree you should let your dr. know that you are having these constant feelings of panic and need a rx specifically for this problem. I wish you the best.
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October 8th, 2009 at 11:05 pm
Feeling useless and worthless is something that people of all ages go through many times in their lifetime. Just ask those old people 35 yo and over.You have no self-esteem to provide for yourself. You need to get a grip on yourself and say -
"I am a person. I can cross the road without someone holding my hand. I can stand on my own two feet. I am strong. I have willpower to get me through any event."
You need to look at your self in the mirror each day and say
"I am beautiful and any person would love me."
You also have to realise that social anxiety exists within all of us. Some people show it more than others. Pretend you are a social person and say hello to everthing in your room. "Hello Mr wardrobe and how are you today?" Hello little teddy, you look might fine with your bow tie" etc You will find a little bit of comfort each day. When you see your mom, say to her "Good Morning Mother" or Mom, how was your day today?"
Talk to as many people or things that you can. when you feel confident, go outside and talk to the flowers and animals. then go to your neighbours and talk to real people that perhaps you know very little about.
If your mom asks why you are talking to the potted plant in the bathroom just tell her you are practicising talking to people.
It is more fun giving names to the objects you talk to, like Mr Front Door, or miss Window ..you know, use the title for them rather than "hello door"..too depressing. Grrr!
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October 8th, 2009 at 11:14 pm
Seriously, my first 3 jobs I got through people that I knew that worked there and since I was their frend and they recomended me I got the job. In fact at one of those jobs I had to work with the public alot and that helped me come out of my shyness some. I worked at a concert venue and drunk people are not shy so I felt no need to be shy back, but I was still reserved. I was as shy as you could get when I go that job, and now I am still shy but I am better at it. Try getting a job that you know someone, that will get you in the door and then you can work on your people skills and as long as you are a good worker you will have a reference to put down. Try getting a job where they will hire alomst anyone, but not a telemarketer job or anything like that. I worked at Sonic and like I said a concert venue. I was so scared to carhop it wasn’t even funny, but they basically just threw me out there and I made a tip on my first trip.
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October 8th, 2009 at 11:47 pm
mayne you should just take a deep breathe and just go for it.. but inly go at your own rate
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October 9th, 2009 at 12:31 am
Wish I could answer I have extreme anxiety, and being laid off and not able to find work has made it 10x worse, my answer is basically your not alone, it sucks, I want to feel sorry for myself, but I can’t I have a little girl, and bills(27/m) I wish you the best.
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October 9th, 2009 at 12:54 am
Lol even if you over come it I doubt you will get a job.
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October 9th, 2009 at 1:14 am
I just found out yesterday that I have social anxiety disorder. I’m 18 right now and THAT disorder explains everything now.
The thing is, I’m not exactly shy. I used to have so many friends, I used to know almost everybody in my high school. But before that people always thought I was a shy child. I knew I wasn’t shy, something was wrong with me, but I couldn’t tell what. I had 2 yrs in my life when I felt almost normal, when I was 14 and 15. And exactly when I thought it was all over, it started getting worse then ever.
A few weeks ago I had a panic attack in a bus and I’m scared to ever take the bus or the subway.
Just once I managed to take a job, it was at McDonnalds. I spent 3 days there, then started to hate everybody, I was 15. Now it’s a really bad memory, everytime I eneter or see a McDonnalds I get anxious.
As far as I know, it’s genetic. My father has it, two of my uncles have it, from my mother’s family, her sister, her brother and herself have some kind of anxiety disorder. Nobody ever did anything about it, because they choose to ignore it. And only my father, of all of them managed to overcome it. He’s still affected by it, we never went anywhere as a family because he is afraid of hotels and people. But he managed to keep his job, mostly ouf of fear of not being able to support his family if he gave in the disorder.
In this case, I think my father is a role model. I’m not sure this is what you were looking for, but the best you can do by yourself is think how much you want to do something and overcome the fear.
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October 9th, 2009 at 1:23 am
Binaural beats will help you achieve a healthier and better life and combat anxiety. Please check out http://binauralbeatshq.com for more details. good luck and hope this helps! =)
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